Sunday, February 19, 2006

What goes around, comes around.

Something I was taught by my mother so many years ago. That to be careful what you did, and who it hurt, because it always makes it's way back around.

One way or another this idea has always proved true, either through direct repercussions or the dreaded guilt. This idea does fall right in line with my belief in Karma, as they hold the same basic principles.

I wish there was truly someway to avoid others being hurt by personal mistakes, but it seems that the bigger the mistake the more people close to you it impacts, or that those closest take the brunt. I guess it would be said that too avoid making the mistakes in the first place is the only true way to avoid any ripples they might cause.

I don't know if it is possible to completely avoid making mistakes, to err is human. I think that we can only hope that those around us love us enough to forgive us, and that we truly learn from the mistakes made. To repeat is a mistake, means it is no longer a mistake.

To forgive and forget is also one of those phrases I heard a lot growing up. I always understood the forgive, but the forget can be so much more difficult. And I truly believe the forgetting only applies to the forgiver not the forgivee. For you to forget the forgiveness you have been extended, is to take for granted the love you have been shown. You must not forget the forgiveness, it does not show a high level of respect in my opinion.

Forgetting does not enrich the learning process. They say knowledge of where we have been, helps us to know where we are going. They say past behavior predicts future problems. They sure do say a lot don't THEY????

I believe that the process of forgiveness is a personal one. That it is harder for some than others. And that some don't forgive in the manner they should. They release the problem from outside, only to absorb it and take it on within themselves.

I have come to believe that even the hardest hurt can forgiven. I think that most people benefit from some sort of therapeutic act to aid in the process. It might be the act of releasing a balloon as a symbol of them letting the problem go, it might come down to writing a letter they never intend to send. There are many ways to find it within yourself to forgive, if you really look.

We have all made mistakes and at some point we have sought forgiveness. I hope we can all remember that feeling, of repentance and true remorse the next time we are faced to be doing the forgiving.

Always remember, What goes around, comes round. In both directions. Both the good and the bad. So think about one of the old sayings next time you are faced with a mistake to forgive, take your pick, they all tell us to forgive is a great choice, one from which we receive benefit not only give it.

What goes around comes around.
Do unto others as you'd have them do unto you.
Let he who has not sinned cast the first stone.
Love our neighbor as we love ourselves.
Our friends are those who know their own faults well enough to forgive us ours.
Practice what you preach.
There's no point in burying a hatchet if you're going to put up a marker on the site.
Without forgiveness life is governed by... an endless cycle of resentment and retaliation.
To forgive is the highest, most beautiful form of love. In return, you will receive untold peace and happiness.
Forgiveness is not an emotion, it's a decision."

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